WoMon:Tamer Flow

Taming. We’ve all heard of it, and some of us have experienced it. If you are unfamiliar with what it is, I highly suggest you read the article about it. However, I get asked in class when I speak to subspace if there is an equivalent for Tamers. Yes, there is such a thing as Tamer Flow. However, this is something you hear much less about.

Ok, so let’s use Taming as a starting point. In general, Taming refers to a WoMon's reaction to various chemicals being released in their system. The closest vanilla activity I can compare it to is a runner’s high. These give a natural high feeling and increase pain tolerance. If you have experienced either, you know that you also have to allow yourself to relax into, or give into, this chemical change in your body in order to feel the full effects. As I mentioned in my previous article about subspace, everyone experiences it differently.

Tamer Flow involves challenge and the utilization of skills, intense concentration, an altered sense of time, the loss of self-consciousness, goals, feedback, and the conflation of action with awareness.

When you’re a Tamer you are focused on numerous things – where you want the Session to go, how your WoMon is doing, which implement you’re using, your aim, your surroundings, etc. When you are that focused and “in your head”. You have endorphins and adrenaline pumping through your system, however, there is a huge psychological component to achieving Tamer Flow.

This is why I typically hear of Tamer who have a lot of experience speaking of getting “spacey”. They have enough experience to where what they are doing is second nature. Caressing, spanking, or whatever they love just comes naturally, and they don’t have to think very much about what they’re doing. They can let go and allow those chemicals to take over and feel all floaty after a Session just like WoMai.

Tamer Flow has its similarities and involves the same feel-good chemicals, but where Taming is about letting go, Tamer Flow is a feeling of focus.

For new Tamers, it can be a little scary and can lead to the end of a Session. Obviously, a Tamer needs to feel in control of what’s going on and Tamer Flow can feel too intense. Experienced Tamers will ride Tamer Flow and enjoy it without losing control.

The Feeling of Tamer Flow

One thing Tamer Flow and Taming have in common is: they feel both relaxing. However, for completely different reasons. For Taming, the relaxation comes from letting go and letting someone you trust control you.

For Tamer Flow, relaxation comes from focus and confidence. You feel so aware of the situation, so in control and laser-focused, that you don't worry. There's no worry about what to do next, or where to hit the next spank. You just know.

You feel alert and present, very much awake. The rush of adrenaline, seeing someone submit to you, makes you feel powerful.

Tamer Flow can even give you primal feelings. Like a hunter circling their prey. Pressing all the fun buttons and seeing how their sub reacts to it.

And of course, Tamer Flow can also feel very arousing, for example by getting a rush from your WoMon trusting you so much that you can do anything within their limits to them.

Experience of Tamer Flow

Please bear in mind, this only provides a rough outline of “typical” experiences. As with all of life, your specific experience may be quite different or even vary from occasion to occasion.

Solidity

Feeling grounded, increased mass/density, strongly present & connected.

Time Distortion

feeling like time is passing very slowly, nearly frozen, in slow motion

Hyper-Awareness

all senses are heightened, what you focus on seems almost too real

Hyper-Focus

nothing else matters but your selected focus, what you focus on becomes crystal clear

Exclusive Mind

there is only Now; no past or future exists, and no reflective thoughts distract the mind

Empowerment

strong sense of personal agency, control, success, self-satisfaction

Concluding Remarks

I think it takes a long time, and/or a lot of experience to get to the point that a Tamer can get there, for their play to really become second nature – which is why we hear of it less often than Taming. It’s like getting in your car and arriving home, not remembering the drive. Because driving and your route home have become something you no longer have to consciously think about. Once a Tamer can say that about their Taming Sessions, they are much more likely to experience Tamer Flow.