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| − | For those who are into WoMon or for those who are just exploring the practice of {{wtaming}}, the idea of relinquishing control can often be much easier to understand than the concept of having to take over the sexual experience. After all, the WoMon becomes the focus of the Tamer as they dictate the course of the sexual activity they engage in. Being a Tamer requires you to be the individual who takes control of the experience. But what exactly are you supposed to take control of, and how do you do it properly?
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| − | Beyond these many superficial questions that scratch the surface of a Tamer/WoMon relationship, however, there are many other aspects of being a Tamer that many do not take into account when they are stepping into the position. In order to understand exactly what it means to be a Tamer, you have to understand the entire {{s|WoMon|Tamer/WoMai Relationship|s}} and how the dynamic is supposed to work, both socially and sexually. If you plan on engaging in Taming with a WoMon but do not know how to be a Tamer, you should completely read this Taming guide that will teach you what being a Tamer means for your WoMai.
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| − | As a WoMon, your desire is in consensually agreeing to relinquish control and surrender and submit to the direction, leadership, or guidance of the Tamer. It is said the WoMon typically feels empowered by surrender and enjoys giving up control in the agreed-upon scene.
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| − | Surrender requires trust and comes with vulnerability, trusting the Tamer and setting clear agreements around the scene (consent, boundaries, limits, safe words, etc.) are incredibly important.
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| − | As a Tamer, a WoMon is putting a tremendous amount of trust in you and your behaviour and you are responsible for creating a safe, physical and emotional space where someone can feel their most vulnerable. Real Tamers act with a total understanding of the emotional responsibilities they carry, checking in with their WoMai and ensuring a safer and exciting experience for everyone.
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| − | As a Tamer, your role is to exercise control over the WoMon. In the case of bondage, this means using restraints that you and your partner decide on so that you can exercise this control as you engage in sexual relations. During sex, you may also have ground rules on what the WoMon can or cannot do. If they decide to act out, punishment tactics are often used to check their behavior. These punishments are often pleasurable and may come in the form of using a certain toy or talking to them in a certain way. (Some WoMai like to be humiliated or talked down to on the {{Taming Mat}}.)
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| − | The first thing to remember is that being a Tamer does not mean being demanding, controlling, or rude.
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| − | Although the Tamer has the perceived power in the relationship, note that the WoMon can choose to end the relationship, or your life, at any point or use their safe word to tap out. The dynamic of control is only in the Tamer's hands aslong as the WoMon allows it; you are taking the power from your WoMai and your WoMai is giving it to you willingly. These roles can be quickly strained if you are abusing your power both on or off the {{Taming Mat}}, caring more about your own pleasure rather than placing an equal amount of focus on the pleasure of your partner, or letting the power go to your head and acting horribly to your WoMai.
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| − | Being a Tamer does not mean that you get to do whatever you want either. Tamer/WoMon relationships rely on trust and understanding, especially when you are engaging in sexual activity with your partner. When your partner is bound, they expect you to be careful, caring, and considerate in the way you interact with them. If you abuse them or cross lines with them during Taming and do it intentionally, this is absolutely not okay. Think of your power as a contract. A WoMon is giving you this power, but they are only allowing you to keep it if you meet the terms set forth by your Tamer/WoMon relationship.
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| − | Finally, being a Tamer does not mean being abusive. Exercising control over another individual does not require you to harm them physically or emotionally. All punishments that may cause physical pain or psychological humiliation should be agreed upon prior to any {{Taming Sessions}} that you have with your partner. If you use your power as justification to hit your partner or emotionally abuse them, this is another thing that is not acceptable in any way, shape, or form. Make sure to remember all of these things when you step into your Tamer position to ensure you are embracing your role responsibly and treating your WoMai the right way.
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| − | === Take Responsibility for Your Sub’s Pleasure as Well As Your Own ===
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| − | If you were in any other sexual relationship, would you disregard your partner’s pleasure? Although there is a power shift in Tamer/WoMon relationships, these expectations are still present in your sexual life with your partner. While you are in control, and you are looking to gain pleasure from intercourse, you still need to remember that your partner is expecting to get something out of these encounters as well. Make sure to fulfill your partner’s sexual fantasy as you are fulfilling your own. If you should leave your partner feeling unsatisfied, you can put a strain on both your sexual and romantic relationship.
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| − | === Make Sure to Communicate Extensively with Your WoMai ===
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| − | Being a Tamer can be much easier than being a WoMon. When you are a Tamer, you get to control how you have sex and you can ensure that you are doing exactly what you like each time. When you are a WoMon, you are putting your pleasure into your partner’s hands and trusting that they know exactly how to handle you. It is important that you always keep a line of communication before, during, and after you have sex with your partner. Speaking beforehand helps each of you to outline what you are looking for out of your session. Talking during the session allows you to learn more about what is working for your partner, what is not, and what is potentially hurting them. Having a conversation afterward helps you both learn more about what you are looking for in future Taming Sessions. Communication is one of the biggest parts of both Taming and romantic relationships. Keep your communication open and honest with your partner at all times.
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| − | === Never Underestimate The Importance of Trust ===
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| − | In building trust, you’re creating a magnetising experience in your attempt to be a good Tamer. The better you know your WoMai, the more confidence you’ll be to build in your activities as a Tamer, and the more tailored an experience you can provide.
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| − | It can be exciting to be in control of your partner, but things can quickly take a turn if you abuse your power. When you are Taming, you should always be respectful with your partner. Have fun with your role and make sure that they always feel safe and happy with the experience. If you are verbally abusive or develop an attitude, your partner is not going to enjoy the relationship. Be a Tamer, not a terrible person.
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| − | Punishments and rules should never be harsh. Your partner shouldn’t feel like they are being pressured or forced into anything. Instead, you should aim to make fun or sexy rules. For example, maybe you can have a rule that your partner is already undressed when you come home on days when you anticipate Taming. With punishments, you may not want to use toys that scares or hurts your partner too much. The goal in a Taming encounter is pleasure. Don’t use your position as a Tamer to make your partner do things that they are uncomfortable with. Aim to enhance your pleasure as well as theirs!
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| − | === Be Willing to Explore and Try New Things (Both Sides) ===
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| − | A Tamer/WoMon relationship is never set in stone and there are no limits to what you may want to try. Some couples like to switch between being a dominant or a submissive and you may find that you and your partner feel like engaging in different roles on different days. Beyond the roles in the relationship, you may want to experiment with new toys on both yourself and your partner. Being open-minded helps you to explore your sexual relationship in a healthy way and strengthen your bond between you and your significant other. Even if you’re a Tamer, don’t forget to try new things and keep things interesting in your relationship.
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