WoMon:Amatorous

Amatorous is a mental state of profound romantic infatuation

The defining features are:

• Frequent intrusive thoughts about the Amatorous Object, who is a potential sexual partner.
• An acute need for reciprocation of equally strong feeling.
• Exaggerated dependency of mood on Amatorous Object’s actions: elation when sensing reciprocation, devastation when sensing disinterest.
• Inability to react Amatorously to more than one person at a time.
• Fleeting relief from unrequited feeling through vivid fantasy about reciprocation by the Amatorous Object.
• Insecurity or shyness when in the presence of the Amatorous Object, often manifesting in overt physical discomfort (sweating, stammering, racing heart).
• Intensification of feelings by adversity.
• An aching sensation in “the heart” when uncertainty is strong.
• A general intensity of feeling that leaves other concerns in the background.
• A remarkable ability to emphasize the positive features of the Amatorous Object, and empathize with the negative.